Sayangi dan Bersyukur Pada Suami

SUATU PERJALANAN
“Tanggungjawab suami selain memberi nafkah dan mencari rezeki, jangan lupa bimbing anak dan isteri. Kalau suatu hari berlaku selisih faham, jangan cepat menuding jari. Duduk berbincang dan cari kata sepakat. Tiada bumi tak ditimpa hujan.”

Teringat pesan ayah di suatu petang...
“Ayah dulu bila arwah mak mula bising bersuara, ayah tak balas dengan kata-kata. Ayah keluar hidupkan motor, pergi ke Behrang cari mee goreng mamak. Bila sampai saja di rumah, ayah hulur pada arwah Mak, muka yang tadi masam terus tersenyum riang. Suami kena tahu kesukaan isteri, supaya mudah memujuk hati,” ayah menambah berkongsi pengalaman selama 41 tahun bersama arwah Mak.

Persefahaman antara suami dan isteri bukan boleh dicapai sehari dua. Ia merupakan satu perjalanan sepanjang usia perkahwinan. Cabaran dan dugaan pastinya tidak sama, di awal, pertengahan dan di hujungnya. Justeru, sikap saling memberi dan menerima sangat perlu dipupuk dan dibaja. Memberi kelebihan diri untuk saling melengkapi. Menerima kekurangan untuk saling menginsafi, suami mahu pun isteri bukanlah manusia sempurna.

SILAP ISTERI
Kesilapan isteri bermula apabila melupakan kebaikan suami kerana benci dengan sikapnya yang tidak menyenangkan hati. Silap menjadi dosa andai keistimewaan suami orang yang sering dibicara. Keburukan suami dijaja, atas alasan minta nasihat rumahtangga. Tapi apa maknanya kalau semua orang bercerita. Rasulullah SAW pernah mengingatkan melalui sabdanya yang bermaksud:

“Wahai kaum wanita, aku lihat kamu ini lebih banyak di neraka”Seorang wanita lalu bangun bertanya, “Apakah yang menyebabkan yang demikian? Adakah sebab kami ini kufur?”Rasulullah SAW menjawab, “Tidak. Bukan begitu. Tetapi ada dua tabiat kamu yang tidak elok yang boleh menjerumuskan kamu kedalam neraka:

1. Kamu banyak mengutuk atau menyumpah

2. Kamu kufurkan kebaikan suami.”

Ada kalanya, isteri merajuk tanpa sepatah kata. Suami yang tak tahu menahu, terus buat biasa. Muka isteri semakin kelat, hilang serinya. Menahan ego diri, ingin dipujuk dengan kata cinta, namun tidak berbicara dan bersemuka. Suami tertanya-tanya sendiri, akhirnya terasa hati. Salah siapa agaknya, bila masing-masing memendam rasa. Kasih mula bertukar marah. Marah marak menyala benci.

YANG LEBIH, YANG KURANG
“Awak beruntung ye, dapat suami yang memahami. Tak seperti saya. Hari-hari menjeruk rasa,” luah seorang teman yang baru beroleh cahaya mata.
“Suami saya juga ada kurangnya. Tapi kelebihannya lebih banyak untuk saya perkatakan. Saya pun isteri yang ada salah dan silap,” jawab saya supaya dia buka mata.
“Ada suami yang tak pandai urusan rumah tangga, namun dia bijak berjenaka, meriah suasana. Ada suami yang jarang menghadiahkan bunga, tapi selalu membelanja anak dan isteri dengan makanan istimewa. Dan ramai juga suami yang tidak reti memujuk, bermain kata. Tapi mudah bertoleransi bila diminta bantu sini dan sana . Ketepikan kekurangannya dan ambil kelebihan. Pasti awak juga akan rasa bertuah beroleh suami seperti dia.” pujuk saya lagi. Moga-moga dia berubah hati. Kembali ‘memandang tinggi’ kehadiran seorang suami.

ENGKAU TERBAIK UNTUKKU
“Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, apa pula suami isteri, buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih. Baru teguh peribadi.”
Wahai teman bergelar isteri, mari kita muhasabah diri. Pohon keampunan dari Ilahi agar cinta Nya bersemi kembali. Banyakkan istighfar dan juga sedekah, kerana janji Allah setiap kebaikan menghapus kejahatan.
Susunkan jemari pintalah kemaafan dari lelaki bernama suami. Jangan bertangguh dan jangan lengah. Bimbang maaf tiada serinya lagi.
Pandang wajahnya, lihat matanya. Bisikkan di sanubari, “Terima kasih, suamiku. Engkau terbaik untuk diri ini.”
Mencari dan terus mencari cinta Ilahi.
Saling berpesan-pesan kpd kebaikan..

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing...”

dipetik dari  http://umidanishku.blogspot.com

The 100th Posting

I've got this from my inbox, just sharing as the 100th posting of the blog. Take a break... relax...

Lawyer's Stupid Questions
Recently reported in the Massachusetts Bar Association Lawyers Journal, the following are questions actually asked of witnesses by attorneys during trials and, in certain cases, the responses given by insightful witnesses:

1. "Now doctor, isn't it true that when a person dies in his sleep, he doesn't know about it until the next morning?"

2. "The youngest son, the twenty-year old, how old is he?"

3. "Were you present when your picture was taken?"

4. "Were you alone or by yourself?"

5. "Was it you or your younger brother who was killed in the war?"

6. "Did he kill you?"

7. "How far apart were the vehicles at the time of the collision?"

8. "You were there until the time you left, is that true?"

9. "How many times have you committed suicide?"

10. Q: "So the date of conception (of the baby) was August 8 th?"
      A: "Yes."
      Q: "And what were you doing at that time?"

11. Q: "She had three children, right?"
      A: "Yes."
      Q: "How many were boys?"
      A: "None."
      Q: "Were there any girls?"

12. Q: "You say the stairs went down to the basement?"
      A: "Yes."
      Q: "And these stairs, did they go up also?"

13. Q: "Mr. Slatery, you went on a rather elaborate honeymoon, didn't you?"
      A: "I went to Europe, Sir."
      Q: "And you took your new wife?"

14. Q: "How was your first marriage terminated?"
      A: "By death."
      Q: "And by who's death was it terminated?"

15. Q: "Can you describe the individual?"
      A: "He was about medium height and had a beard."
      Q: "Was this a male, or a female?"

16. Q: "Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition notice sent to your attorney?"
      A: "No, this is how I dress when I go to work."

17. Q: "Doctor, how many autopsies have you performed on dead people?"
      A: "All my autopsies are performed on dead people."

18. Q: "All your responses must be oral, OK? What school did you go to?"
      A: "Oral."

19. Q: "Do you recall the time that you examined the body?"
      A: "The autopsy started around 8:30 p.m.."
      Q: "And Mr. Dennington was dead at the time?"
      A: "No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I was doing an autopsy."

20. Q: "You were not shot in the fracas?"
      A: "No, I was shot midway between the fracas and the navel."

21. Q: "Are you qualified to give a urine sample?"
      A: "I have been since early childhood."

22. Q: "Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse?"
      A: "No."
      Q: "Did you check for blood pressure?"
      A: "No."
      Q: "Did you check for breathing?"
      A: "No."
      Q: "So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?"
      A: "No."
      Q: "How can you be so sure, Doctor?"
      A: "Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar."
      Q: "But could the patient have still been alive nevertheless?"
      A: "It is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law somewhere."

Selamat Datang Ramadhan

Lama blog ni tak berupdate. 'Main Author' nya lebih senang berFB drpd blogging.

Sempena bulan puasa yang bakal menjelma seminggu lagi, saya kepilkan beberapa hadis Nabi berkenaan puasa yang saya dapat dari seorang teman yang juga ustaz di FB. Perlu diingatkan supaya berhati-hati kerana banyak hadis2 palsu atau maudhu' yang sering kita dengar dibacakan apabila tibanya bulan Ramadhan, terutamanya berkenaan fadilat solat tarawih.

Selamat berpuasa!

AzD

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HIMPUNAN HADITH-HADITH SAHIH MENGENAI RAMADHAN

Sekiranya semalam saya berkongsi menghimpunkan beberapa hadith maudhu’ dan dho’if yang popular disebarkan semasa Ramadhan, insyaAllah pada kali ini kita akan menyenaraikan beberapa hadith sahih mengenai fadhilat Ramadhan. Hadith-hadith ini sepatutnya menjadi prioriti kita untuk disebarkan bagi mencetuskan kesedaran rakan-rakan mengenai bulan yang mulia ini.

1.Abu Hurairah meriwayatkan, bahawa Rasulullah SAW bersabda:
اَلصِّيَامُ جُنَّةٌ فَلاَ يَرْفُثْ وَلاَ يَجْهَلْ وَإِنِ امْرُؤٌ قَاتَلَهُ أَوْ شَاتَمَهُ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنِّي صَائِمٌ – مَرَّتَيْنِ – وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَخُلُوفُ فَمِّ الصَّائِمِ أَطْيَبُ عِنْدَ اللهِ تَعَالىَ مِنْ رِيْحِ اْلمِسْكِ، يَتْرُكُ طَعَامَهُ وَشَرَابَهُ وَشَهْوَتَهُ مِنْ أَجْلِي، اَلصِّيَامُ لِي وَأَنَا أَجْزِي بِهِ، وَالْحَسَنَةُ بِعَشْرِ أَمْثَالِهَا [متفق عليه]

“Puasa adalah perisai. Maka hendaklah seseorang tidak berkata (berbuat) keji dan tidak berbuat jahil. Dan bila ada yang mengajak bertengkar atau mencelanya maka katakan: “Sesungguhnya saya sedang berpuasa” – dua kali – Dan demi Zat yang jiwaku ada di tangan-Nya, sesungguhnya bau mulut orang yang berpuasa lebih harum daripada bau misk di sisi Allah. Dia meninggalkan makanan, minuman, dan syahwatnya kerana Aku. Dan Aku sendiri yang akan membalas amalan baiknya dan ketahuilah bahawa satu kebaikan dilipatgandakan balasannya sampai sepuluh kali kali ganda” [Muttafaq ‘alaih].

2. Sahl bin Sa’d meriwayatkan yang Nabi SAW bersabda :
إِنَّ فِي الْجَنَّةِ بَابًا يُقَالُ لَهُ الرَّيَّانُ يَدْخُلُ مِنْهِ الصَّائِمُونَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، لاَ يَدْخُلُ مِنْهُ أَحَدٌ غَيْرُهُمْ، يُقَالُ : أَيْنَ الصَّائِمُونَ ؟ فَيَقُوْمُونَ لاَ يَدْخُلُ مِنْهُ أَحَدٌ غَيْرُهُمْ فَإِذَا دَخَلَوا أُغْلِقَ فَلَمْ يَدْخُلْ مِنْهُ أَحَدٌ. [متفق عليه]

“Sesungguhnya di Jannah ada sebuah pintu yang dinamakan Ar-Rayyan yang masuk melaluinya pada Hari Kiamat hanyalah orang-orang yang berpuasa. Tidak akan masuk seorang pun melaluinya selain mereka, kemudian diserukan, “Manakah orang-orang yang berpuasa?” maka mereka pun berdiri. Tidak ada seorang pun yang akan masuk melalui pintu Ar-Rayyan kecuali mereka. Setelah mereka masuk semua, maka pintu itupun ditutup, sehingga tidak ada lagi yang bisa masuk melaluinya.” [Muttafaqun ‘Alaih].

3. Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri meriwayatkan yang Rasulullah bersabda:
مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ يَصُوْمُ يَوْمًا فِي سَبِيْلِ اللهِ إِلاَّ بَاعَدَ اللهُ بِذلِكَ وَجْهَهُ عَنِ النَّارِ سَبْعِيْنَ خَرِيْفًا [متفق عليه]

“Tidaklah seseorang berpuasa sehari di jalan Allah melainkan Allah akan menjauhkan wajahnya dengan puasanya tersebut dari api/nar di hari kiamat, sejauh 70 tahun.” [Muttafaq ‘alaih]

4. Hudzaifah meriwayatkan yang Rasulullah SAW bersabda:
فِتْنَةُ الرَّجُلِ فِي أَهْلِهِ وَ مَالِهِ وَ جَارِهِ تُكَفِّرُهَا الصَّلاَةُ وَ الصِّيامُ وَ الصَّدَقَةُ (متفق عليه)

“Dosa yang dilakukan seseorang kerana fitnah keluarga, harta, atau jiran akan dihapuskan melalui solat, puasa dan sedekahnya.” [Muttafaqun ‘alaihi]

5. Abu Hurairah dan Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri melaporkan yang Rasulullah bersabda :
(( لِلصَّائِمِ فَرْحَتَانِ يَفْرَحُهُمَا إِذَا أَفْطَرَ فَرِحَ بِفِطْرِهِ وَإِذَا لَقِيَ رَبَّهُ فَرِحَ بِصَوْمِهِ )) [متفق عليه]

“Bagi orang yang berpuasa ada dua kegembiraan: Jika berbuka dia bergembira dengan berbukanya tersebut, jika bertemu Rabbnya (Allah) dia bergembira dengan (pahala) puasanya [Muttafaqun ‘alaihi, dengan lafaz Muslim].

6. ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr berkata yang Rasulullah bersabda :
(( الصِّيَامُ و القُرآنُ يَشْفَعَانِ لِلْعَبْدِ يَوْمَ القِيَامَةِ، يَقُولُ الصِّيَامُ: أَي رَبِّ إِنِّي مَنَعْتُهُ الطَّعَامَ وَ الشَّهَوَاتِ بِالنَّهَارِ فَشَفَّعْنِي فِيهِ؛ يَقُولُ القُرْآنُ: رَبِّ مَنَعْتُهُ النَّوْمَ بِاللَّيْلِ فَشَفِّعْنِي فِيهِ فَيُشَفَّعَانِ ))

“Puasa dan Al-Quran keduanya memberikan syafa’at untuk hamba tersebut pada Hari Kiamat. Berkata puasa: “Wahai Rabb, sesungguhnya aku telah menghalanginya dari makanan dan syahwat pada siang hari, maka terimalah syafa’atku untuknya.” Al-Qur`an berkata: Wahai Rabbku, aku telah menghalanginya dari tidur pada malam hari, maka terimalah syafa’atku untuknya. Maka keduanya memberikan syafa’at [Ahmad dan Ath-Thabarani]

7. Abu Hurairah meriwayatkan yang Rasulullah SAW bersabda :
(( ثَلاَثَةٌ لاَ تُرَدُّ دَعْوَتُهُمْ : الإِمَامُ الْعَادِلُ، وَالصَّائِمُ حَتَّى يُفْطِرَ، وَدَعْوَةُ الْمَظْلُومِ … ))

“Tiga pihak tidak akan ditolak doa mereka: Seorang pemimpin yang adil, seorang yang berpuasa hingga dia berbuka, dan doa seorang yang dizalimi…” [At-Tirmidzi dan Ibnu Majah]

8. Abu Hurairah berkata, sesungguhnya Rasulullah SAW bersabda:
(( اَلصَّلَوَاتُ الْخَمْسُ، وَالْجُمُعَةُ إِلَى الْجُمْعَةِ، وَرَمَضَانُ إِلَى رَمَضَانَ مُكَفِّرَاتُ مَا بَيْنَهُنَّ إِذَا اجْـتَـنَبَ الْكَبَائِرَ )) [رواه مسلم]

“Solat lima waktu, Jumaat ke Jumaat berikutnya, Ramadhan ke Ramadhan berikutnya merupakan penghapus dosa-dosa selama masih meninggalkan dosa-dosa besar”. [Muslim]

9. Abu Hurairah melaporkan yang Rasulullah SAW bersabda :
(( وَمَنْ صَامَ رَمَضَانَ إِيمَانًا وَاحْتِسَابًا غُفِرَ لَهُ مَا تَقَدَّمَ مِنْ ذَنْبِهِ ))

“Barangsiapa berpuasa Ramadhan kerana dorongan iman dan mengharap (pahala) maka pasti Allah ampuni dosa-dosanya yang telah lalu”. [Muttafaqun ‘alaihi]

10. Abu Hurairah melaporkan yang Rasulullah SAW bersabda :
(( إِذَا دَخَلَ شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ فُتِّحَتْ أَبْوَابُ السَّمَاءِ، وَغُلِّقَتْ أَبْوَابُ جَهَنَّمَ، وَسُلْسِلَتْ الشَّيَاطِينُ ))

“Jika telah datang bulan Ramadhan, maka dibukalah pintu-pintu langit dan ditutuplah pintu-pintu Jahannam, serta dibelenggu para syaithan”. [Muttafaqun ‘alaihi]

11. Hadith Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri :
(( إن لله تبارك وتعالى عتقاء في كل يوم وليلة – يعني في رمضان – وإن لكل مسلم في كل يوم وليلة دعوة مستجابة )) رواه البزار

“Sesungguhnya Allah memiliki orang-orang yang dibebaskan (dari azab neraka) pada setiap siang dan malam bulan Ramadhan, dan sesungguhnya setiap muslim memiliki do’a yang mustajab pada setiap siang dan malam” [Al-Bazzar]

i dream of X.....

It is now 3am, am helping out azd with the transcribing (but he had already gone to bed, tak pe la..he started his work earlier tadi).

so just a quick entry before i forgot the storyline....jeng jeng jeng!

*******
my dream last night:

suddenly in a place where there were lots and lots of kids....playing with their swords. it sort of looked like a lightsaber...ala yg mcm dlm citer star wars tu..... there were many cubicles.....then suddenly all the children disappeared.
so i asked somebody (tak perasan la sapa) what happened?? where did everybody go?? so this somebody said... the human population has extinct.

waaaaahhhh...mcm citer sci-fi pulak mimpi kali ni....
pastu tetiba je ada scene where people were busy doing something.... i looked around. they were loading their weapons with some kind of bullet.

begini ler kira2nya dialog dlm mimpi tuh:
"apa benda tu?" i asked them.
a somebody (terpaksa panggil somebody sebab tatau pompuan ke lelaki...hehe) said, " ni senapang nk lawan anjing.... anjing tu bukan real anjing... dah kena virus giler apa ntah... so kalu nmpk anjing tu ko tembak la dgn senapang ni"
"apsal bullet tu kaler putih? mana dapat?" i asked that somebody again.
"ni special bullet ni... susah nk cari tau. brand dia 'X'. kalu nk, kena beli kat franklin street nuuuhh," that somebody said and pointed to a junction.

then i looked to that direction, i saw franklin (a supermarket).... but i didnt see any franklin street. so i walked into the supermarket... tetiba je ada kat isle baby food, cari susu aiman....alamak!! susu naik harga lagi!!! cehhh......

end of mimpi....terbangun sebab nak terkucil
muakakakakakakakaaa......................................................

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ok la...nak sambung wat overtime
nighty nite everybody!

di satu mlm yg sunyi......

Jam dah pukul 3.30am. By this time yesterday, azdie was probably updating his blog...sambil menari pocho-pocho...muakakakaka......... ingatkan dia tgh buat apa pukul 4 pagi smlm, goyang2 depan computer, ghupanya dok hafal steps nak berpocho-pocho. Alkisahnya, tghari tadi masa aiman tgh tido, kitorg beriya menari pocho-pocho depan komputer...hahahahaha...nak tergelak. mula2 tu pening jugak nak ikut, last2 dgn adanya tok guru azd, maka berjaya ikut steps cikgu tudung hijau tu menari...wachaaaa!!! tp kak emy kata, yg tu just the basic steps, ada lg sambungannya....tak pe la, lain tahun la pulak.

So skrg azd dah terbabo. Aiman pulak dah 4 kali mengigau...hopefully tak nangis la. mlm tadi ke rumah kak zurin, solat berjemaah, bertahlil & baca yassin. Ayah kak shikin passed away early this morning. I'm sure it was a total shock for her. Apa2 pun kami doakan semoga kak shikin sekeluarga sentiasa tabah & semoga roh arwah ditempatkan di kalangan org2 yg beriman...al fatihah.

Masa mkn2 kat rumah kak zurin tu aiman seronok sakan main dgn syifa, ashraf, iman & ryan. Dok mengusik je kerja dia sambil ikut ashraf. Yg best tu dia panggil syifa, oya...oya (sofea). Laaaa......sofea masih di dlm kotak ingatannya...hehehe... tatau la, sometimes out of the blue tetiba je aiman dok cari2 oya.... oya ane?? ada sekali tu kat dlm toilet, dia nmpk toilet bowl terus ckp oya cing cing.. aiyaaakk..rupanya dia teringat ada sekali tu dia ikut sofea gi pee pee...hahahaha.... mcm laaaa takde benda lain nk ingat aiman ooii...
kdg2 uwin (aunty zurin) pun dia cari jugak. Sampai kena call kak zurin sebab aiman sibuk cari uwin nk borak. ouhh...glamer sungguh kak zurin ni..aka uwin aka aunty judy aka aunty zoey!! hehehe

***aiman mengigau***
"abang...laliii...laliii....(lari..lari)"
-hmm...tu mesti teringat dia dok lari2 ngan ashraf tadi

"cnkslajfgkfkn,z......(tatau apa aiman mumbling...pastu gelak2)

aiman terbatuk.... "mama...maman atukkk"
-gave him susu, abis sebotol then dgn mata tertutup rapat, aiman tersengih sambil kata "laaannn.....laannn.....maman umpa elannnnn (maman jumpa uncle lan)
hehehehe........teringat kat abang lan ghupanya.

****end of mengigau episode***

once upon a time at berrima a few weeks ago.... kak zurin panggil abg lan "sayaaang ... bla bla bla..."
aiman pun dok menyibuk panggil abg lan "sayaaaanggg....sayanggg"
hehehehe.....
mcm parrot daaaa.............

Happy 2nd birthday aiman sayang

Dear aiman,

Happy 2nd birthday to you....kejap je anak mama dah besar...rindunya time aiman baby dulu.......
Mama & babah doakan yang terbaik utk aiman, semoga menjadi anak yg soleh, diberkati Allah selalu, pjg umur, murah rezeki, sihat tubuh badan .... semua semua la yg baik..... mmmuuaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhssss Love you heaps!!!!!

**a poem from babah to aiman here**

what the......

was listening to the radio this morning....

papparazzi: have you heard about the outbreak of swine flu? it's all over the world and it is spreading quite fast. do you have anything to say about it?

a so called 'star': oouhh....it doesnt really bother me you see... i'm a vegetarian...

huh??? ignorance is bliss?????? muahahahahahahahahahaha..................!!!!!!!!!!

**more info on swine flu here**

Aiman, how fast you have grown...

1. Gathering with the Western side of Sydney's families at Bicentennial Park, Sydney Olympic Park.

Antara hasil kerja Aiman. Suka sangat tangkap gambar.


One of the activities, grab the lollies! Aiman dapat 3 aje, malu2.

Uuu, windy, cold!

"Babah, Smile!" says Aiman, meaning, "abah, take my picture!"

2. Trip to Uni to return a library book. Stop by at Mount Kiera.

Kasih Ayah bawa ke mati

Kasih Ibu sampai ke syurga

feeling low

aaargghhhh.........................................................................

mama: (muka monyok.....)
aiman: mamaaa....mama....
mama : (looked at him, smiled at him then faced down again)
aiman: mama...mama...

and then i swore i heard him say mama...kenapa??
i looked at him, he pulled my hand, put it on his hand...then patted my shoulder and gave me the sweetest smile...
oooh aiman, if u only knew what's on mama's mind......

bila tuan muda bertitah.....

Me: Aiman...do you want to go to the park???
Him: Uuukk paaaarkkk.....(angguk2 kepala)
Me: Nak play ball at the park??
Him: Uuukkk ball....ball.. (angguk kepala lagi)
Me: Nak lari-lari kat park...play ball??
Him: uukkk aliiiii aliii....balllll.... aliiii aliii.....
Me: Ok ok...wait ok...mama pakai tudung...tunggu jap babah solat..
Him: uuukkk....park....uuukkkk ball...olat...
Me: ok wait...
Him: uhuk uhuk...mamaaaa....paaaark..paaaark...
Me: ok...
Him: mamaaaa.....ball...jom jom...
Me: aiman nak pegi park??
Him: uuuukkkk paaaark... uuuuk paaaark...
Me: aiman nak pegi park?? yess?
Him: uuukk paaaark....uuukk paaaark...
Me: aiman nak pegi jamban???
Him: uuukkk baaaaannnn....baaannn....
Me: muahahahahahahahahahahaha..............

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in the car

him: mamaaaa....park... ball ball...
me: ok ok..wait kejap lagi sampai..banyak car
him: ampaiiii...ampaiiii....mamaaaa...
me: ok waiittt
him: uuukkk ball..... ampaiiii...ampaii...
me: ok nanti sampai...
him: uuuukkk ampaiiii...ampaiii....
me: ok
him: mamaaaa..... ampaiii...ampaiii...
me: ok

and it went on and on and on and on until FINALLY we yeay ampaiiiii (shouted aiman) at the park to play ball and aliiii aliiii......

Goodbye tokki......

Welcome back to me.....alaaa, nak balik m'sia balik!!!!!

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A few nights ago, I had a dream. it wasnt a nightmare or anything. I dreamed of my late grandfather, tokki or ayah as we all called him. I was at his house in KT, and all I could remember was tokki smiling and giving me a kiss on my forehead. And then I woke up.

Tokki passed away recently when I was back home. But unfortunately, due to some unavoidable circumstances, I was not able to attend to his funeral :(
The last time I saw him was about 2 years ago, when all of us went back to KT to attend kak emi's wedding. He was as usual, bed bound (he suffered a stroke many many years ago and as the years gone by, his health slowly deteriorated as well).
So i introduced Aiman to him, his i dunno 8th or 9th great grandchild. Because of the stroke, his speech was slurred but his memory was still intact. My grandmother, whom we called chek said, "ni org jauh mari ni... ingat dok?? elyn, anok ton. ni cicit ada skali nih. dok tahu laaa lepah ni dang ke dok nok jupe lagi"
and yes he remembered me, "elyn...hmmm mung blajo molek"
he was laughing and then he cried...sebak kot....sedihnya tengok tokki.......

When azd asked me, what can I tell him about my late tokki? Hmmm...garu kepala...
not much. He was a good man. Most memories with him were from my primary school years. We only got to see my grandparents during raya break, so that was like once a year. Sometimes he would come and visit us in KL. And when tokki was staying in our house, he would always be MIA. Where to?? He went to his fav place --> Chow Kit...hehehe... terer naik bas mini all the way from Cheras. kagum i!

And I remembered there was a pasar malam behind our house,and one night he decided to sell keropok there. So we took this one spot (which was so not strategic, a small lane next to the big main road where the pasar malam was, and it was dark!), set up the table, laid the keropoks and waited for somebody to come and buy the keropoks. And of course harus la adegan jerit2 from tokki and I, "keropok!!! keropok!!"
I think we managed to sell 2 or 3 packets of keropok that night and the money went to me...upah jerit tokki kata......hehehehe kelakar giler!
So those are some of the memories that I could remember this very minute about tokki...sedih pulak :(

May Allah s.w.t. grant Allahyarham tokki His blessing and forgiveness and will include his soul as one who is deserving of rewards in Al-Jannah.
Al-fatihah....

Taking a break...home sweet home

"update la blog....lepas ni cuti 2 minggu sure tak update punya", big boss berkata-kata. "hmmm....baik boss," balas PA.
Bercuti kah kami? partly yes, taking a break, catching up with families and friends back home. But in truth hati tak senang maaa....Azd has to prepare for a conference in KL, I have to finish reading THAT book (uurgghhh)...tak pe tak pe, put aside those unhappy feelings for a moment. yang penting kita enjoy balik ni!! yiiiihaaaa!!!

So all the gifts have been packed in one big bag, tinggal nak susun baju je. Very the excited ok!! and not forgetting the thrill of going to bib's kenduri this saturday. Maklum la sejak dtg sini we missed a lot of those nasik minyak events. For the kenduri, azd has been appointed by the "commitee members" of Kota West to be the cameraman cum escortman for bib. I'm sure he'll do a great job capturing those happy moments on camera but sadly today his precious camera buat perangai pulak. Kesian dia, kalau hantar service amik masa 2 minggu. Sabar ye babah aiman, at least it is still working walaupun ada sikit bengong :p

Anyway I'm sure everybody cant wait to see aiman. Lets just hope he'll behave himself on the plane tomorrow night, and sleep all the way through.... errr cough syrup anybody??? zzzzzzz.....

alrighty, take care people!!!

When the wise men speak.......

from a sv to his ever so blur student: Dont be like monkey see, monkey do...take this book, read it, grasp the basic, we'll discuss this in 2 weeks time. AD can do it, she struggled at first but in the end she wrote a hell of a thesis. I'm sure you can too, it is tough but that's just life. but remember, time is crucial!

student: me...monkey????? blur...blur...

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from a father to his whining daughter: happiness is not the station you arrive at but the way you travel to reach that station. So cheer up my dear daughter. No pain no gain. When there is pain, dont be insane :)"

daughter: yes my dear abah.... but oh my, insanity is like a kiss away from reality

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and last but not least hehehe...

from a depressed wife to her i-am-doing-phd-too husband: ala tensionnya....tak paham...rasa mcm aper je... blah blah..blah...##@@$**###!!..... sroottt...sroot...sroott....(a must have Kleenex scene)

an honest reply from a serabut-too-husband: hmmm...sabar la, nak buat mcmana... Ok lah, nak gi mandi!

wife: (dlm hati..huh apa??? nak gi mandi??????) Uwaaaaaaaaaaaa................!!!! #%%$$#@$##%&*^#$$@$!#!

aiman: tjom..babah....tim tim (swim-swim)

jiwa kacau...

kat luar hujan, dlm lab sejuk... kasut basah.. kepala nyuuttt nyuuttt... perut lapar.... mata ngantuk.....hati mandom (pms???).... supervisor tadak.... keje (????).....buat depression questionnaire... scored 36.. moderate to severe category... huh??? la la la la......
sekian.

Weekend out...yumm yummm

Went to Chatswood on Sunday. Joined Kak Zurin, Abg Lan, Noor and Fathy. Main agenda: to eat hainan chicken rice! Yummy... It's owned by a Malaysian, and serve halal food. Plenty of food choices but we usually opt for chicken rice or sometimes assam laksa. I was so hungry because I didnt take anything before I went to the lab that morning (very bad habit!! yeah I know).
"number 24...hainan chicken rice!!" shouted the nyonya.

So everybody ordered the chicken rice except for Azd. He wanted chicken chop instead (reason: "I dont want to eat rice today"). But to his 'surprise??' the chicken chop came with rice anyway...hahaha.. punah harapan babah aiman utk tak makan nasi for the day. And then makan time!! (that is after abg lan recited the doa makan of course :P).

Chicken chop vs Hainan chicken rice

Aiman was as usual, ate a little bit here and there. Was more interested to "aliiii ...aliii..." (lari lari, with the hope that somebody might wanna play lari-lari with him but sorry bebeh, semua org sibuk melantak). Oouhhh dan sebelum makanan yg terhidang di meja masuk ke mulut, everybody (saya ngan kak zurin ler) sibuk menangkap gbr makanan. " kena masuk blog ni," kata kak zurin. hahahaha... i like!!

Everybody with their hungry smile.....bila blh start makan ni???

After that, we walked to Westfield Chatswood (just across the road). Once we were there, Aiman made a scene. He didnt want to sit in his stroller nor did he want to wear his harness sling. Azd and I had to struggle to put him in his stroller. Aduuuh sampai bengkok2 badan bergusti ngan budak kecik ni sorang. In the end berjaya, and as a reward (for not crying out loud hehehe) we gave him a westfield balloon (because he saw that aluuuun aluuunn).

Everybody did some window shopping, and then kak zurin asked, "elyn mana kedai churros tu?". ohhhh bestnya, I could taste the churros and the choc dip in my mouth already... "tuuu kat atas tu, nampak tak? jom kita minum2 dulu...."

Hot and cold hot choc

When kak zurin saw the shop she said, "laaa..akak mati2 ingat kedai jual churros tu gerai kecik2 je mcm kat gold coast tu, rupanya kedai sebijik". oh yes kak zurin, kedai sebijik yg jual all sorts of wicked chocolate thingy.

So what is churros??

Quoted from Wikipedia: Churros, sometimes referred to as a Spanish doughnut, are fried-dough pastry-based snacks, sometimes made from potato dough, that originated in Spain. Churros are usually made of a batter which is piped into extremely hot oil. They are certainly not a low-fat snack because of the frying process. Once the churro is fried it is traditionally rolled in hot cinnamon sugar. The ideal churro has a distinct crunch when one bites into it, but the interior should have a slight softness at the center.

Ok that's a little story on churros... sedap dimakan panas2.. even more sedap when you dip it in chocolate sauce. The one that kak zurin ordered came with milk choc dip, dark choc dip, caramel dip and white choc dip. And the drinks of course, cappucino, latte, mocha macarena and hot and cold hot chocolate. Oooohhh laaa laaa.....heaven!! Dan harus la ada adegan klik klik tangkap gambar juga.

I did try to make churros once but sadly I scored zero!! my churros turned out to be like a question mark shape... and a bit soggy (probably the oil wasnt hot enough)....but the major setback was because I didnt have the right star tip to squeeze the dough. Kesian kak zurin & abg lan terpaksa jd food tester to that soggy churros. hahaha... Oh well, better luck next time.

Aiman naik Barney..vrooommm vrroommm

p/s: terima kasih byk2 kpd fathy + noor & kak zurin + abg lan sebab belanja kami nasi ayam ngan churros! semoga sentiasa dimurahkan rezeki.... thanks again!!!! :)

A wet Sunday

In the lab right now. And what the heck am I doing in the lab on Sunday?? Beats me!! Got a few stuffs to do, but was not really sure am I supposed to be doing it (after having a 5hrs meeting with my sv last Friday)... adoooiii laaa sampai berasap kepala otak!! Conclusion after the meeting: felt like banging my head against the wall, down sedown-downnya..waaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!
Full stop.
Sent Aiman to his new babysitter yesterday for the so called trial thingy. Arrived at around 9.45am, had a chat with Nunu (the babysitter). Learned a new word as well ie "dot" (the pacifier, or known as "tin tin" to aiman). I bought one of aiman's toy just in case but when we came in maaak aihh Rafa's toy (Nunu's 2 yr old daughter) pun dah banyak dah. So I dont have to worry about bringing any more toys for them to play. She even had this huge toy (like a trampoline but it looked like a small pool and was made from plastic). Aiman confirm suka toy ni sebab dia blh lompat2!
And there were lots of big soft toys too including Iggle Piggle!! Yeayyy... Aiman's fav character from the series "In The Night Garden". After making sure everything was OK, then off we went. And as expected si kecik melalak when he saw us leaving him from the balcony. Kesian anak mama.... but hooyeahhh i didnt shed a tear.. well done to me!! hahaha.
Spent the next few hours in lab (ye saya sgt rajin! or was it terpaksa??), headed back to Lakemba for lunch. Had nasi beriyani and tandoori chicken. nyamm nyamm....But tgh2 melantak berdua dgn AzD of course la teringat kat aiman kan...apa dia tgh buat agaknya?
Then it was time to pick up aiman, yippieeee......
When we came in, aiman just had his bath. tersengih2 and he hugged me. rindu bangat sih sama anak mama! hehehehe....
Nunu said, "nampak mamanya pergi terus nangis, tapi nangisnya sekejap aja. Makan pun OK, uk uk pun udah cuma susunya nggak mau minum. Air putih juga dikit bangat diminum. Dan dia mau main sama Rafa"
At that time Aiman was happily jumping up and down in the big plastic toy. And Nunu continued, "Iyya, dia pinterrr skali nonton Iggle Piggle sama Rafa. Bila lagunya keluar, terus menari2. Dan bagusss, nggak kacau sama org".
She then took her handphone (wah wah nokia baru...cantik bangat...hahah sempat perasan lagi tuh!) and showed me the videoclip of Aiman and Rafa dancing. Kelakar je bebudak ni menari depan tv.
Ouhh pinterrrrr pinterrrr anak-anak ini. Alhamdulillah everything went well!! And it was a good thing that I didnt have that "unhappy" feeling like when I sent Aiman to his previous babysitter. That's a good sign, right??
After that we went back home. On our way back Nunu called, "mba, maaf ya. tadi ribut2 sampai lupa 'dot' aiman tertinggal!".
"nggak apa2 nunu, saya ada lagi satu dot aiman di rumah. nunu simpan aja ya, nanti minggu depan kan aiman dtg lagi. ok daaaa"
Hehehe...end of conversation. dot... dot.... tanpa mu aiman nggak bisa bobok!!!
Ok back to today's story. It's still raining. It's actually has been raining for the past week and the weather forecast says the wet weather will continue throughout the whole next week as well.. oh dear... basah la kasut ku nanti :(
It's summer but it feels like autumn. Autumn in summer. Sometimes you can have all the 4 seasons in one day kat sini. Right now there's flooding in the north Queensland and bushfire in Victoria. They called it the "black saturday" because it was the worse bushfire ever that happened last weekend and about 180 people (i think) were killed and thousands more lost their homes. Donations came pouring from people all across the country within a very short period of time. To date I think they manage to collect millions and millions of dollars to help the bushfire victims. Hopefully the bushfires will be contained soon.
OK la...dah lapar.... daaaaaa!!!

p/s: just received a call from kak zurin ajak gi makan nasik ayam kat chatswood... adakah boifen ku mau???

International school

Came home...no one was here. AzD and Aiman are still in Wollongong. So took some time to update my blog. Aiman is currently at Mama Azreen's house. He must be having fun coz there are kids the same age as him.
Was planning to send Aiman to a new babysitter today but had to cancel it. It'll be his first time with the new babysitter. I cant just leave him there like that. Kang demam terkejut lak budak tu kena tinggal with someone he has never seen before. Probably on Friday or maybe Saturday, will be the trial day for Aiman. Will drop him off, stay with him for a little while then off I go. And it wont be a whole day thingy, just a few hrs the most.
So Aiman had been to various international schools (that's what my abah called...hehehe). When he was just abt 4 mths ++, we sent him to his very first bbsitter; Jasmin (from Bangladesh). I dropped him in the morning then off to school. Then picked him up in the evening. The first day we sent him, Aiman cried and cried. Sedih kena tinggal kot (ala mama dia pun srooot srroott gak). When we picked him up that day, he didnt want to look at our face when we called his name (kecik2 dah merajuk..ciiit).
After a while we stopped sending Aiman to Jasmin. Then starting from last year till now, whenever Azd goes to wollongong, he'll bring aiman along and drop him off at kak azreen's house. Biasa la first day uhuk uhuk. After a while he got use to it and now I think he has fun staying over there. Good for him!! At least he mingles with other kids as well.
At the same time, we tried to find another babysitter closer to home so that we could send him there if Azd decided to stay at home to do his work. We managed to find one (from an ad in Lakemba). This time it was a Palestinian couple. We sent Aiman there like 2x/week. Since there weren't any kids (except for every thursdays), Aiman was all alone. Kesian anak mama.
I wasn't full heartedly happy everytime Aiman was there, I dunno why. So alas, we stopped sending Aiman to sekolah tok arab (as my abah called it).
Then last week, we met a new babywitter, Nunu (from Indonesia, which part of Indo I forgot). She was introduced to us by Tante Eli. She just came to Australia about a year ago with her hubby and their 2 yr old daughter. Had a little chat with Nunu.... which in the end I got a minor headache trying to communicate with her. Hahahaha... Masing2 tak berapa nak paham. For example she asked me, "Aiman masih diberi asi nggak?".. I was like huh...ape ke bendanya asi nih??? nasi ke??
"asi? apa itu asi? saya nggak ngerti nunu," I asked her, trying my best to immitate her indo dialect. hahahaha.... kelakar giler!!
i think she was trying to explain it to me sampai ketat2 muka dia... nasib baik tante was there and she said "oh asi..... itu Air Susu Ibu"
Hahahaha....ceh ingatkan makanan special apa..rupanya susu ibu dong!! pusing bangat!
There were some other stuffs that Nunu and I had trouble understanding each others word, which I find was quite funny but I cant think of any right now. hehehe.
So there you are.... international schools for Aiman.. starting with IBS (International Bangla School), to Malay, Arabic and latest Indonesian school. ngeh3x.
Hopefully everything will be OK with this new bbsitter, insya allah!!!!

p/s: hah!! these pictures below are totally not related to the story above :p
it was taken during our visit to sydney wildlife park.

Aiman's first encounter with the snake...

aksi ganas.... the wombat strangler!! run wombat run!!

hey...how come this wombat doesnt move??? giddy up!!

a frog prince??? or is it a prince on top of a frog???muahahahahaha....

peekaboo...i see u!!

Disclaimer

Ok so these are the common questions that azd and i got whenever me meet our friends in fb or in person or kat mana2 je la... "bila nak abis?" or "bila nak balik m'sia ni??"
Hmmm it's actually a tough question. To be honest, it's a bugger to us. Yet we can only reply, "tak tahu la bila". Why? because although there is a black and white statement or contract or whatever you called it, saying that we're suppose to complete everything within the 3 years given, but much to our dismay there are things, events that we were unable to avoid or control. Kalau ikutkan hati nak balik m'sia dan dan tu jugak but it's not that easy la bebeh.
We can only plan but the rest is up to the Almighty!
And then sometimes people might say, "amboi ada masa u all update blog?" or "waaa nampak seronoknya u all jln2 dlm gbr ni" or "berjalan aje korang ni ek??" hehehe...
Well dearies, this is just a clarification from us. Bukan apa, we do not want people to think that we have all the time in the world to go berjalan2 aje...
No laaahh. All those pics of us berjalan2 tu biasanya during the weekends, kalau ada masa. Of course we looked happy and enjoying ourselves. Mana ada pegi jln2 tp tak seronok, kan?
So semua pun harus la happy2, senyum2. Kalau bercerita pun kena la cerita yg ceria2....kalau cerita yg sedih2 ... atau asyik whining selalu ke.. nanti blog pun gloomy. Plus I dont want our families in Malaysia to be worried or sad kalau baca entry yg tak best, dok gitu??
Cerita yg tak berapa sedap tu biar la rahsia...cewah! unless if i have to kalau tak tahan sgt, then maybe ada la kot nanti satu dua entry luahan perasaan. hahahaha....
Till then, do pray so that Azd and I and of course including our postgrad friends yg lain will manage to complete this journey and go back to m'sia to be with our loved ones! yeahhhh.....rindu KL! Muaahhhh.....

Creative thinking??? or confused????

Scene One

Was watching Scooby Doo with Aiman the other day. There was this scene where Scooby was in a pirate ship. So I asked Aiman, "Aiman, what's that?".
"Bo", he replied, which meant 'boat'.
"No, it's not a boat sayang, it's a ship", I corrected him.
Aiman looked at me, a bit puzzled. " Shihh (ship)", he repeated.
So I asked him again, "what is that Aiman?" while pointing my finger to the pirate ship showing on the TV.
"Bekkk....bekkk...." Aiman replied.
Alamak..... now he's confused between a ship and a sheep!!


VS

Scene Two

We brought Aiman to visit Sydney Aquarium. It was somewhat like the Aquaria in KLCC but there was no travelator throughout the tunnel. Nevertheless it was fun and the view was splendid.

So there we were in the oceanarium, looking at the stingrays, sharks and other fish as well. Then there was this one big shark hovering on top of us. So I pointed it to Aiman, "Aiman look, a shark!". He was too busy jumping and running here and there and didn't pay much attention.

I called and pointed to him again," Aiman tengok la ni... shark!"

So I managed to get his attention. He watched the shark and shouted, "Lane!! lane!!"

Alamak again..... And now he's confused between a shark and a plane. But you cant blame him for that..hahaha..sebabnya bila shark tu berenang2 kat atas terowong tu, memang nampak mcm one big airplane!!

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I'm hungry..what's for dinner??

Didn't have lunch today... so by 5pm, my tummy started grumbling... After azd had his quick nap, we went out to our usual favourite place to dine, The Taste of Thai (TOT). Just about 5 minutes drive from our house. How very convenient to live in Bankstown. Halal food is easy to find, and since there's a Vietnamese town here fresh veges (asian vege) are abundant! Seronok i!!Ok back to our dinner story. So we parked right in front of TOT. Table no.1 is our usual spot but somebody was seating there so we sat some where else. Waiter dia pun dah kenal dah agaknya muka 3 ketul ni, tersengih2 tgk Aiman. We ordered steamed rice with Tom Yum mixed seafood, sizzling beef and Hoy Jor (tatau apa benda ni tp sedaaaap sgt). When the food arrived, Aiman started his temper tantrum. Like always, he didnt want to stay put (u cant expect an almost 2 yr old boy to have proper table manners, can u??). Nasib baik la minah waitress sorang ni dtg amik Aiman, pujuk dia dgn ais-krim. Elok duduk diam pulak budak kecik ni. So he got himself a choc ice-cream. But the rich and luscious choc ice-cream couldnt stop Aiman that very long. Dia start balik mengganas..hehehe. Kesian mama ngan babah terpaksa mkn laju2...
Lepas mkn, off we went to Centro Bankstown. Azd wanted to find some Wii's accessories. Maklum le, skrg tgh Australian Open... teruja la nak main game tennis... hehehehe. Didnt stay long at Centro sebab mcm biasa Aiman tak moh dok diam. Dia nak lepas sebenarnya, tak mau duduk dlm stroller. Mana blh tahan beb!!
So after we found what we were looking for, we went straight back home, rasmikan racquet tennis Wii.... lepak2 tgk Roger Federer main tennis (yeay see u and Nadal in the finals!). And now it's almost 1am...lapar la pulak.......

Muka jejaka yg kelaparan yg sempat menunjukkan simbol 'V' dgn jarinya di hadapan TOT














Muka kebosanan Aiman....















Hoy Jor yg sedaaaap...but this time lettuce dia bg sekeping je..ciiit!!